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What do you do when you have given everything you can and they still spit in your face? Show you not one ounce of gratitude. You have given time, energy and emotion. They give nothing in return or it feels forced. Then they just leave. All of the time, energy and emotion just kicked to the curb and you just are left feeling spent.

As I wrote those words above, I had just come to realization that my marriage of 8 years was indeed over. The person that I had spent the last 8 years with was now moving on and flaunting her new found life, possibly new relationship and posting things about what a good guy looks like - like I had never existed or I was just a guy that she spent 8 years with once. It really had me down and out for that evening. It has me feeling like a failure.

(It is worth noting here, that we may not understand the situations we are going through while we are going through them. But God is waking through them with you and one day your journey through the valley will aid you in helping someone else in God’s time.)

I texted a friend who had been through a similar situation. As we texted back and forth, I told him that I was feeling like I failed and he sent back the words below:

“No bud, it’s not u. It has nothing to do with u. It’s how that phase of a relationship works. Try to put your faith in God and pray for her happiness even if that means with someone else. Which of course sucks. But pray for her success. Your life will ultimately be happier and healthier if things work out well for her.”

I just read those words and it made sense to me. There was nothing that I did wrong and to wish struggle and pain on her would only bring struggle and pain into my own life.

Also, wishing for her life to suck apart from me is so unlike Jesus. Jesus would rather, as my friend said, me pray for her and wish her a happy life because it’s what He would do. When I do that then I am able to spend time of living my life “to the full” as Jesus said in John 10:10.

When you release things to Jesus and let Him deal with it - then it opens you up to have the life that Jesus wants you to have.
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